Mastering Self-Maintenance and Control: Thriving Through Change

Introduction

Embrace self-maintenance and control, as symbolized by resilience amidst change, to navigate challenges in both work and personal relationships.

Those of you who have followed me since I began my journey as a writer may recall my story of leaving Corporate America after 15 years. My career change to the education field brought clarity to a universal truth: you can’t control others; you can only control yourself.

This reality is undeniable in workplaces where organizational leaders and stakeholders drive constant change. Whether good or bad, some employees adapt positively, while others resist, eventually finding themselves struggling to stay afloat. Toxic attitudes can emerge, leaving individuals burned out and resentful while continuing to punch the clock, day after day, year after year.

Self-Maintenance and Control in the Workplace

Adapting to Organizational Change

Change is inevitable in any workplace. Policies, procedures, products, and services evolve, often without input from those lower in the hierarchy. Employees face a choice: adapt and grow or resist and stagnate.

The Cost of Resistance

Resentment often builds from repeated denials of promotion or limited advancement opportunities. While discrimination may warrant legal recourse, many toxic behaviors stem from an unwillingness to take charge of one’s circumstances. If a workplace no longer serves your goals, it might be time to move on rather than remain in a state of discontent.

Overcoming the Fear of Starting Over

What Holds People Back

The fear of starting over often prevents employees from seeking new opportunities. New jobs can mean building seniority from scratch, adjusting to different benefits, forging new relationships, or even relocating. These challenges are real but should not deter you from pursuing happiness and growth.

Making the Leap

To overcome this fear, focus on the potential benefits of change: personal growth, renewed motivation, and the chance to align your career with your values. Embrace the discomfort of change as an opportunity to redefine your path.

Self-Control in Relationships

The Illusion of Control Over Others

In relationships, many stay with partners who consistently behave contrary to their values, hoping for change. The hard truth is that you can’t force someone to change; you can only change yourself.

Recognizing When It’s Time to Move On

If years of effort have yielded no alignment in values, interests, or goals, it may be time to reassess the relationship. Growth often requires hard decisions, but the result is a more fulfilling and authentic life.

Embracing Self-Maintenance

Identify What You Can Control

Focus on your sphere of influence: your reactions, decisions, and mindset. These are the areas where your energy will yield the most significant impact.

Develop Coping Mechanisms

To thrive amidst change, cultivate strategies like mindfulness, physical activity, and journaling. These practices help you process emotions and maintain clarity.

Take Proactive Steps

Set boundaries in work and relationships. Know when to stay and adapt and when to leave and pursue new opportunities.

Conclusion

Change is inevitable, and so is the passage of time. Whether at work or in personal relationships, you hold the power to decide how to respond. Stop resisting, stop complaining, and start taking control of your life. The waves of change are constant, but with self-maintenance and control, you can navigate them with grace and purpose.